Why am I in a bad mood?

I believe that the root of this problem is that many people are discouraged and down because of the way others treat them. This is known as rejection. Although its hurtful when we're rejected,the truth is that this is life and we have to deal with the fact that we may sometimes get in the crossfire of people's "mess" or bad moods. Make the decision to stop making people's bad moods and behavior steal your joy. Please know that "hurt people" hurt other people. Refuse to let someone else's bad day become your bad day. Why do we respond so extreme to people's lashing out? Why does this behavior have the power to send our day down the drain? I believe that sometimes deep down inside,people may ponder if the "accuser" may actually be right. I believe that the root of the problem lies in the way we feel about ourselves. Some of us don't have a good relationship with ourselves. It is important to God that we like the person that he has CREATED us to be. This is important. Find your confidence in Christ...not your checkbook, social standing, position in the church, position at work,position in a ministry, or whether you're married or single. Get beyond all of that and know that God loves you and chooses you. We are his beloved. We have to work on the relationship that we have with ourselves. It took me a while to gain this understanding. I am still a work in progress regarding this area of my life. I just thank God that I'm not where I used to be regarding self value and dealing with rejection. The spirit of rejection can be brought on by something that may have happened in the past. It can be brought on by molestation,physical abuse,verbal abuse,rape,estrangement,etc..Many individuals such as myself have battled with some if not all of these issues. The spirit of rejection takes root in many of our lives and is able to manifest and reveal itself in many ways. For example, in some of my past relationships(friendships included), if things didn't go exactly the way that I saw them in my mind, I'd take it personal & an argument would follow. It would sometimes be simple issues that didn't require all of the extra drama! To make matters worse, I'd often be in relationships with people that had the very same issue & was just as blind as me towards the matter. The blind definitely can't lead the blind!! It's true that you attract people into your life that coincides with the way you feel about yourself inside. I'm so glad that I'm moving pass that! With the root of rejection, you often see an individual not agreeing with your view or wanting to do things in a way that wasn't envisioned in your mind as a REJECTION OF YOU instead of them simply being an individual that has a different way of doing things. Instead of both parties meeting halfway and reaching a compromise, you shut down completely. There is healing from this:) I had to learn not to put my WHO'S and DO'S together. Just because a person rejects your opinion or what you'd DO in a given situation doesn't mean that they are rejecting you or WHO you are. Stop getting your who's and do's mixed up. It's time to get real brothers and sisters. I've noticed that oftentimes the most boastful of people can have the lowest self value/image. It doesn't have to always be this way. I've found that emerging yourself in Christ as well as keeping the company of people who have POSITIVE goals and values is the medicine for that disease. Never be afraid or regretful for removing or distancing yourself from people who try to drag you down in spirit. I'm not saying to stop loving them but do so from a distance because oftentimes when people aren't aware of their distorted mindset or if they are comfortable with that mindset, they will try to constantly feed it to you. If you're not in right standing with your self worth, you'll eventually find yourself caught up & spewing that same hatred & negativity. The crazy thing about it is you'll confuse it for positivity. You'll try to label it as being "REALISTIC" when in reality you're being limited. You're limited within the confines of a mental jail. I've served my time which is why I know so very well the effects of it. It is an everyday process for me to break those chains. It is a constant battle to quiet the yelling of people's negative words and actions from my past and sometimes present. I believe that most can agree that there is no worse emotional pain than being mistreated,rejected,& abused by those you love and trust. I had to learn to not let it consume me. I'm not going to say my feelings are never hurt when I'm on the receiving end of a person's hurtful words & actions because that would be a lie. The difference between the person I was and who I am now is that I no longer let it consume me. I don't let it dictate who I AM as a person. OK now get this, some of the things that people may say or have said just may be true BUT they weren't ordained to be your judge. God is our only judge & when we put him first and follow him, please believe that he will clean us right up. Never let an individual tell you that they believe its "their job" to vulgarly and abusively let you know about your faults when they have a few "issues" themselves. We all do.  Most of the time the very people that are pointing a finger at you,have major flaws that they are hiding themselves by pushing the focus on your flaws. Please believe that. With all that said, I wish you success within your endeavor to love the person that God has created you to be. Once you nail that relationship,all other relationships won't be so difficult to decipher as positive or negative. You have to love yourself as "Me" before loving the "We" aspect of yourself. Baggage only looks good at the airport not a relationship ;)

Nata Bee