Then Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest". ~ Matthew 11:28
So many relationships end because many of us go into them thinking that they are the answer needed to take away our baggage. Reality hits when you get into these relationships and find out that the person has just as much if not more baggage than we do. Some of us aren't looking for a man, we're looking for a Messiah. Some of us aren't looking for a woman but a maid. Someone that can clean up all of that mess we've accumalated over the course of our lives. It's time that we keep it real with ourselves. You find out that underneath that suit and behind that million dollar smile is a burdened down individual. You find out that the "36-24-36" isn't the only thing that you're carrying over the threshold. You may be carrying the rape, abuse, her momma, her insecurities, her manipulative mindset. You may find yourself walking down the aisle towards his abuse, his insecurities, his mental illness, & his manipulative mindset. So many eventually end up going into the mindset of "falling out of love" because the baggage that they've brought into a relationship is now combined with our baggage. The "ideology" of perfection then goes out of the window & is chalked up as "falling out of love". If we would just realize that a husband or wife is not the ticket we need to obtain LASTING happiness within the depths of our spirit, we would be a better person to be in a relationship with. Learn who the true Comforter and Healer is. People were never meant to clean up our mess. Once we digest that and actually depend on the true Messiah, you know the one that shed his blood on the cross for us, we'll learn to live victory in this life. The first step is being honest with ourselves. Learn to recognize that some of us really believe that life isn't worth living if we're not in a relationship & then proceed to tear down that lie with the word of God. Learn to recognize that some of us have a bad attitude towards men and women which often effects our ability to have a successful relationship. This is not restricted to romantic relationships but friendships as well. As I walk my journey, God reveals the issues that I need to resolve within myself. As I work with him to resolve my own issues, he shows me the unhealthy relationships and friendships that I've attracted into my life. Remember that various variables in our "stinkin thinkin" often attracts others with the very same mindset. Once he starts cleaning on your insides, you tend to see things and people in a new light. Some you are no longer drawn to because you're no longer blinded or chained down in that area that drew them into your life in the first place. Once we learn to be honest with ourselves, we will have no issue being honest with others in our life.
Peace, Love, and Blessings,
Nata Bee
